Moms, Who Told You That You Were...?

In the beginning Mark Zuckerberg created Facebook. Now Facebook was formless and empty, and whiteness was over the surface of the page. And Mark Zuckerberg said, “Let there be posts,” and there were posts. He saw that the posts were good, and he separated the likes from the comments—the first day of Facebook.

Facebook was created in 2004 to connect people on social media. Everything was going well until people saw that likes and shares were pleasing to the eye and also desirable for gaining wealth, popularity, and followers. Now, our news feeds are bombarded with manufactured posts that aren’t meant to inform us but to lie to us for the sake of trending on social media; It doesn’t matter if a post is true, it matters if it can stimulate feelings and generate likes/shares. The sad reality is we accept these lies because seeking the truth would require a commitment of time—we don’t have much time to search for truth these days. We login, we scroll, and we openly accept the information that is laid out for us, regardless if it is true.

The story in Genesis 3 gives us the first account of when humanity traded in the truth for a lie. When God approached Adam and Eve, He asked them this simple question, “Who told you that you were naked?” I love this questions because God is making the reference that they didn’t find that out from Him. Adam and Eve separated themselves from the source (God) and started accepting information that didn’t come from the true source. I believe Adam and Eve’s question they got asked is the same question God is still asking, “Who told you that you were…?”

Who told you that you were not a good mom?

Moms across this country are emotionally, physically, and mentally exhausted because they consistently run to the wrong source to define the term mom. I wish that more moms would run to Jesus instead of running to Pinterest to organize the chaos that comes with being a mother. It’s okay if you don’t have a sticker chart for household tasks, a fire evacuation plan on the refrigerator, and a Facebook picture for your kids first day of school (for every single grade!). God designed you to parent the way he designed you—unlike anybody else. Your parenting style shouldn’t be standardized to the “American” standard of parenting. If you have changed your parenting style to reflect other moms around you, you are re-writing God’s story for your kids. Your child was given to you because only you can offer them the uniqueness they need to live out their story. Your title of good mom doesn’t come from always cutting the crust off the PB&J; it comes from not killing them and giving them the opportunity to experience life.

Who told you that you were not beautiful?

A separate BMI calculator should be created for moms. You should get points deducted for each child you birthed and if you maintain a job and if your child plays a sport. I’m not saying you shouldn’t strive to maintain a healthy lifestyle; I’m only saying that you need to strive to maintain your healthy lifestyle, not that of another woman. The Bible says, “I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.” (Psalms 139:14). Yes, not taking care of our bodies can become sinful. However, the weight of sin that Jesus endured on the cross included your 20 extra pounds you might be carrying. You might be struggling with being overweight, but who told you that you were not beautiful? If you feel that you are not beautiful, then I can guarantee you are not asking the correct source.

Who told you that you were not loved?

Above all else, there is a God in Heaven who created you and who adores you. Anything else is secondary. Whether you are a single mom or part of a healthy marriage, you will face the same feelings of loneliness. There is not a man on this planet that can satisfy the desire you have for intimacy. This desire was placed in your heart so you would seek the only source that can fulfill it: God. The world may establish its set of rules of what it means to be loved, but those standards will always fall short of God’s standards. If you are a single mom, then know that you are loved just as much as your happily married friends who have their “perfect” families. If you are happily married, then release your husband from the responsibility of loving you the only way that God can love you; no man can produce that type of love. 

Who told you that you were not able?

Any woman who has ever given birth to a child is a hero in my book. In fact, it should come with Master’s Degree and a letter of recommendation to whatever field of study that woman chooses to pursue. Men may be physically superior (in some cases), but you all have the pain tolerance that could go nine rounds with Mike Tyson. If anyone has ever planted a seed that made you feel unable to accomplish your passions, you believed a lie. You are stronger than you think. You are more influential than you think. You are more capable than you think.

Who told you that you were_________?

I believe God is desperately wanting you to run to Him and stop evaluating yourself to worldly standards. Human standards are designed to exhaust you emotionally, physically, and mentally. If you are feeling exhaustion, then it’s a sign that you are going to the wrong source. I’m challenging you to evaluate whatever situation you are struggling with and ask yourself this question: Who told me that I’m __________? This society blindly accepts any information as truth. I believe Matthew 7:7 is true. “Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you.” Don’t accept just anyone’s word—not even mine—as truth. I’m asking that you run to the source that created you in the first place. He designed you. He knows you. He loves you.

written by: mark bland